5 Dating Websites Deal-Breakers

Studies show the majority of members on dating websites, pay attention to the photo and description of other members, often missing red flags that indicate a serious flaw in their personality. A deal breaking fault might include a dating partner who is narcissistic, dishonest, overly dependent, or who clearly does not have your best interest at heart. Whichever dating website’s you frequent the most, there are five dating deal-breakers, indicating a member you may want to think twice about getting to know.

1. The ‘Form’ Introduction

Dear Blank,

I long to be the soft rain that gently falls on your blank colored hair.

The late autumn forest that fills your blank colored eyes.

The sweet whisper that calls out your name, blank.

 

A love note used to be meant for someone special, but thanks to the invent of copy and paste; it may just be regurgitated thoughts transferred from one person to another. The form introduction is an ambiguous letter that appears to be written for… well, just about anyone. It is neither personal, meaningful, nor thoughtful, and while it may be flattering, it really only says the person is busy, lazy, and quite possibly a player. If you run across one of these in your inbox, remember, anyone who does not have time to write a proper introduction, probably does not have time to develop a proper relationship, either.

2. I’m Too Sexy…
A recent study looked at multiple social websites, paying attention to the photos and updates people posted, compared these with their personality type. What they found, were narcissistic personalities (overly self loving) featured a plethora of photos and updates on their page, documenting their daily activities, including everything from eating breakfast to parading around in the bathroom mirror half naked. These people may have been sexy and provocative, but most importantly; they were primarily preoccupied with themselves. It is great to love yourself, but being overly, obsessively, infatuated should be a red flag for a dating partner who might not be ready to share the limelight with anyone else.

3. Ambiguous Mysterioso

It is beneficial to be mysterious on dating websites, but those who use this ambiguity to hide things you really should know, are committing a huge deal-breaker. What I am referring to, is relationship status, age, or having kids. Daters who lie from the beginning, will most likely continue to lie throughout your relationship. No matter what excuse they give for not being completely honest, remember that honesty is at the base of every great relationship. If you cannot trust your partner to be truthful about themselves, how can you trust them to be truthful with how they feel about you? You can’t, which is why too much ambiguity is reason enough to take the key out of their ignition, before they take you for a ride.

 

4. Cyber Tease
An internet tease may or may not be a liar, but the real deal breaker they are committing is playing games with no intention of taking your virtual relationship to reality. Some dating website members are perfectly happy with keeping relationships on a virtual level. These people might tease about meeting someday, but in the end you will only be left with emails and instant messages. Study’s show, Internet connections grow quick, creating a level of trust well beyond what they should. You could end up investing a lot of time with someone who is not what you’re looking for. To avoid this, anyone who does not appear interested in meeting within the first three to seven messages or conversations, should be immediately demoted from your ‘most wanted’ list.

5. Cyber Stalker

Stalking used to be considered sitting outside of someone’s bedroom window, but today it has taken the form of multiple texts, background checks, and push notification (smart phone) abuse. People no longer need to stalk people on the street, as they can use their computer to do it for them. Internet stalkers are controlling, mistrusting, and too invested with your own time. If someone appears to be overly attentive or knows too much about your life, don’t take this as flattery. This is a first-class red flag to remove them from your list before they make things miserable. Stalkers fuel themselves from your existing social media sites, websites, blogs, and any other government lists made public, so be careful of what you put out there, as it really can be used against you.