How to Know When He’s Into You

When flirting with guys on dating website’s, if you don’t know what to look for when he reciprocates your efforts, you could end up putting a lot of effort into something without getting much back. In the dating game, the male version of coquetry is often not that obvious, so it is helpful to have some guidelines on what a man will do when truly interested in you. It is not the website’s you join that make the greatest influence on your dating success, but rather how you choose to play the game while maneuvering them. Today, we look at a few ways men give their intentions away, both during the initial introductions (chat, text, email, etc.), and on the first date.

When He’s Into you-

ñ  He’ll Be Attentive- A man’s eyes offer a clue as to where he wants to be. If he is looking around a room, particularly at other girls, he is saying he would rather be in their company. If he makes eye contact with mostly just you, he is showing that he is attentive and interested in what you have to say. This is also true while emailing or texting on dating websites. If he does not respond back to your messages in a reasonable amount of time, you can probably assume he has his plate full with a lot of other members.

ñ  He Will Smile- Men smile when in the presence of a woman he’s interested in. The key is, he will smile out of nervousness, which means grinning at just about anything that comes out of your mouth. You may catch him smiling when you bring up a serious topic, to which he’ll quickly wipe from his face, realizing what he’s done. If he can laugh at a joke, then drop his expression to a deadpan one second later, his interest is probably minimal. Studies also show that a smiley face while messaging or texting can be a sign he is happy to be getting to know you. A smile is a good thing, no matter how it is given.

ñ  He Will Talk/Chat- Whether it is on a physical date, or in the chat room of a website, women are used to leading most conversations. However, when a guy is really interested, he will initiate small talk. He may bring up topics pertaining to anything from your career to your family. The important thing is that he is making an effort. There is such a thing as a shy guy, but even he will reach out out his comfort zone to get to know you.

ñ  He May Round His Shoulders- Men who are trying to impress a woman, push their shoulders back, attempting to appear masculine and dominant. When a guy is trying to connect, rather than impress, he will round his shoulders slightly, implying he feels comfortable being with you (he doesn’t feel like he has to put on a macho front).

ñ  He Will Groom You- Instead of using sexual touching (caressing) to flirt, a man who is really interested in a relationship, will do something that resembles grooming. Like the mating rituals of primates, men show affection by brushing lint from your shoulder, or an eyelash from your cheek. These are all excuses to touch you, but they also let you know his intention to be a good caretaker. These motions differ greatly from the ‘grabby’ hands of a Player.

ñ  He Will Mirror Your Actions- Studies show that men will actually mirror a woman’s physical actions, while trying to be compatible with her. This means that when you lean forward, he’ll lean closer. When you cross your legs, he’ll cross his arms. The same thing is noted on chat lines or texts, as he will attempt to simulate your style of writing, as a way to communicate with you more effectively. In other words, If you tend to speak with poetic rhyme, a man who is interested will use a similar form of poetic expression. He may not be very good at, but in the dating game, it’s the thought that counts.

These are a few guidelines as to what a man’s true intentions are towards you, during those crucial moments of getting to know each other. You should never read too much into an individual email, text, or chat on the telephone. However, if any of these signs of being into you begin to add up, you might as well start reeling him in, because he’s already hooked!