Coming up with ideas on where to take your date can be hard! That’s why we’ve compiled a list of different types of date ideas. Here you can find a list of romantic, creative, cheap date ideas. You will be sure to have a great date no matter the occasion. Peruse and enjoy!

• 4 Your Date – This site has plenty of different date ideas for you to look through until you find the perfect one! You are guaranteed to find that suites your fancy.
• 500 Romantic Ideas – There may not be exactly 500 romantic ideas here…. But there are definitely enough that you can find one for your upcoming date.
• Art of Manliness – One specific article is not being focused on when it comes to this site. Overall, this site provides men with a number of great pieces of advice. Articles like “10 Great Fall Date Ideas” are one where a man can find the perfect date to take his lady on.
• Ask April – Here is a site that no matter what kind of relationship and date questions you can find an answer.  Under the category of Ideas for a Fun Date and Romantic Date Ideas you can find some truly great date ideas!
• Ask Men – Ask Men is a site that answers all of the important questions guys want to know. So, if you are looking for something like date ideas you will be sure to get an answer here.
• Coolest Dates – Here you can find a number of different date ideas like: Valentines Day Ideas, Romantic Dates, Inexpensive Dates, Free Dates, etc.
• Creative Date Ideas – Like the name implies you will find some creative date ideas that cover a variety of areas like: first date ideas, cheap date ideas, fun date ideas, etc.
• Date Hookup – This site primarily provides 100% free dating, but also has a forum where you can find great date ideas!
• Dating.About – About.com provides answers to all the questions you could ever have. Under the dating section you will find all things dating related!
• Dating Tavern – The dating tavern provides a place for visitors to the site to find information on how to find a date, places to meet, and date ideas!
• Good Date Ideas – As the name of the site states, here you will find some good date ideas!
• Guyism – Guyism  is a site that gives guys what they need. Here you can find a variety of information. SO if you need help finding a place to have a date here is the place to look.
• Hot Date Ideas – Here you can find plenty of hot date ideas ranging from you first date all the way up to when you are going steady. Here you are sure to find some really hot date ideas.
• Life Hack – Life Hack is a site that provides a number of pieces of information from ranging topics. Here you can find some really great first date ideas!
• Marie Clarie – This site covers all things from hair to beauty to love and sex. If you are in need of date ideas you will be sure to find something here.
• Ned Hardy – Ned Hardy is a site with a lot of different information on a variety of topics. While dating and relationship information is not their primary topic it can be found! So, browse through this one and you’ll be sure to find some date information amongst a ton of other great topics.
• Nifty Date Ideas – Just as the name states here you can find some truly nifty date ideas! No matter what stage of dating you are in you will be sure to find one that works for you.
• Plan Jam – No matter your location you can take your plans “from your screen to the scene”. Here you can plan out your date and know what you are in store for!
• Red Book Mag – Red Book Mag is the site to find all things related to life… whether you are looking for things related to sex and love or beauty and fashion. Here you will be guaranteed to find some great date ideas.
• Relationship Guides – Here you will find the inside scoop on all things related to dating and relationships. You will be sure to find that perfect date for that special someone.
• Romance Stuck – Romance Stuck is here to help you add more love and romance to your life. No matter what you need help with you will be sure to find it here. Finding the perfect date will be a breeze!
• Romance Tracker – Want a little more romance in your dates? Well, look no further than romance tracker. This site is here to help give your dates that sprinkle of romance they need.
• Studenomics – Looking to be the ultimate stud? Well, you need to make sure that you are able to enjoy your dates! With that you need to be able to afford them. Here you can get advice on using your money and having the perfect date.
• Thirty Dollar Date Night – Looking for the perfect date, but also don’t want to pay a lot? Well, thirty dollar date night will make sure you do just that!
• Your Dating Central – This is the dating central! Here you will be able to find a ton of great dating information, including the perfect date ideas.

Knowing whether your date is going well or whether it is a crash and burn is a tough call. That’s why DatingWebsites.org has compiled a group of experts to answer one question to help you become an expert at reading your date’s body language. This will give you the advantage to know whether there will be more dates to come in your future!  The question: “What body language would your date give off if the date is going well? What body language would your date give off if it’s not going so well?”

DatingWebsites.org Body Language Expert Panel

• Dr. Patrick Wanis
• Dr. Lillian Glass
• Julie Ferman
• Omer Khan
• Patti Wood
• Graham Stoney
• Janine Driver
• Vincent Harris
• Susan Constantine

Dr. Patrick Wanis: Patrick Wanis PhD is a Human Behavior & Relationship Expert and Celebrity Life Coach. Wanis has developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and teaches it to other practitioners. Wanis also works with patients at Milestones Ranch Malibu Treatment Center. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. Major news and media outlets worldwide consult Wanis for expert insights and analysis on the topics of sexuality, communication, body language, human motivation, persuasion and women’s issues. CNN.com turned to him for his specialized insights and expertise when Michael Jackson died. Wanis also specializes in unique photo and video analysis to determine the truth about what you and your partner’s body language reveals. http://patrickwanis.com/body-language-analysis-from-video-photo.asp Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish.

www.patrickwanis.com

See Patrick’s Response Here…

Dr. Lillian Glass: Dr. Lillian Glass, body language expert author of upcoming book Body Language Advantage at website www.drlillianglass.com Known as the ‘First Lady of Communication’ Dr. Glass is one of the world’s most well respected and foremost authorities in the field of Communication. As a renowned Body Language expert she demonstrates her skills in numerous fields. She combines her unique background to educate the public in both an entertaining and compelling manner. As a sought after Media Expert she shares her perspective concerning news events. Dr. Glass has authored over 14 books including the Original Best Seller TOXIC PEOPLE™ where she has lectured worldwide on the topic for decades. She also lectures on Body Language and her book “I know What You’re Thinking” is in every language in the world.

See Lillian’s Response Here…

 

Julie Ferman: Julie Ferman is a personal matchmaker, consultant, dating coach, media personality, professional speaker, and producer of dating industry conferences and events.

Julie founded her personal matchmaking service, Cupid’s Coach in 2001 to dignify and simplify the love search process for selective, relationship-minded professionals.  Now a subsidiary of eLove, the company provides localized, national, and high-end personal matchmaking services and a full menu of coaching services to single love seekers throughout California, the U.S., and beyond.

On the Board of Directors of Matchmaking Pro, the International Association of Professional Matchmakers, Julie is a frequent speaker at national/international Internet Dating conferences, and received the Best Matchmaker award from the Internet Dating/Social Networking conference at iDate2010 and 2011.

Julie has been a guest on countless television shows including Good Morning America, The Today Show, Dr. Phil, NBC’s The Match Off, NBC’s Life Moments and Fox News, and we’ve seen her in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Christian Science Monitor, LA Times, Woman’s World, Westlake Magazine, and the Orange County Business Journal.

Julie met her husband of 21 years through a proactive love search of her own.  As fate would have it, husband Gil was the Great Expectations franchisee who sold her the dating service membership she purchased as a 29 year old romantic hopeful.  Having found her dating solution, Julie has spent every day since helping singles make that all-important initial connection with the right people.  With over 1,100 marriages to her credit, Julie Ferman knows the love business and is eager to share her secrets.

Julie’s Website: www.CupidsCoach.com Phone: 805-371-9557 Email: Julie@CupidsCoach.com

See Julie’s Response Here…

Omer Khan: Omer Khan aka “McMaax” is regarded as a global authority in the area of self, social dynamics and seduction mastery. His credibility comes from years of “Live in field” experience and success in attracting, seducing and dating women of beauty and quality. He is also the Founder of www.maaximumseduction.com, a global outfit which teaches men “Live in fhe field”, meaning by taking them out into real life social venues how to approach, attract, seduce and foster healthy and amazing relationships with women of exceptional beauty and quality using a “fail proof” method known as the Maaximum Method, irrespective of their looks, age or income.

Maaximum Seduction offers “Breakthrough” , Live in field coaching whereby they take you out into real world social environments and show you how to “systematically” and “Step by Step” apply their Maaximum Method to approach, attract and date the most beautiful and highest quality women.

Here is a link to their site

http://www.maaximumseduction.com

See Omer’s Response Here…

Patti Wood: Patti Wood MA, CSP body language expert. WWW.PattiWood.net and Bodylanguagelady@Blogspot.com

See Patti’s Response Here…

Graham Stoney: Graham Stoney is the creator of The Confident Man Project and the author of Confident Man: A step-by-step guide to building self-confidence in men.

See Graham’s Response Here…

Janine Driver: Janine Driver is a New York Times Best-Selling Author of the book, You Say More Than You Think, which was translated and sold in eleven different languages. She is currently working on her next book, You Can’t Lie To Me,due to be out in May; Harper Collins, 2012.

As CEO of the Body Language Institute, she teaches several certification courses on various topics such as The New Body Language Master Certification Course. She also has an upcoming course that will be taught on the Royal Carribbean International Cruise Ship early next year!

Janine is also an international trainer and kenote speaker who playfully provides sales people, professionals, and executives with cutting-edge communication tools (combined with scientific research) on how to win new business, increase sales, improve selection of sales people and sales managers, and generate a significant return on investment. Janine is a popular media guest who’s made appearances on NBC’s Today Show, The Rachael ay Show, an CNN’s Larry King Live. Janine spent fifteen years as a federal law enforcement officer within the United States Department of Justice.

See Janine’s Response Here…

Vincent Harris: Vincent Harris is a Body Language Expert and the author of the bestselling book The Productivity Epiphany. He has been featured in publications such as Esquire Magazine, Women’s World, and is called for his insights into human behavior by The Early Show, MTV, FOX News and others who know Vincent will deliver an accurate and precise analysis. He also delivers cutting edge seminars and works one-on-one with clients from around the world.

www.VinceHarris.com

See Vincent’s Response Here…

Susan Constantine: Susan Constantine is a Body language Expert and runs the site www.silentmessages.com

See Susan’s Response Here…

Dr. Patrick Wanis:

Here are 7 basic signs that say she likes you:

1.    Your bodies tend to be mirrors of each other

2.    The space between the two of you is less than three feet (known as “personal space”) and she is moving closer to you

3.    Her body is angled towards you or she is leaning in towards you

4.    Her pupils are dilated ( she is interested, attracted and possibly excited by you)

5.    She laughs at your jokes

6.    She smiles a lot and has her focus on you

7.    She makes flirting gestures – has her wrists open, tosses or strokes her hair, strokes her neck or caresses any part of her body

Here are 7 basic signs that say she does not like you:

1.    Your bodies are not mirrors of each other

2.    The space between the two of you is three feet (known as “personal space”) and she is moving away from you

3.    Her body is angled away from you – her legs are crossed away from you

4.    Her arms are crossed (defensiveness, self-protection – she doesn’t feel safe or trust you)

5.    She doesn’t laugh at your jokes

6.    She looks away constantly and is easily distracted by sounds or constantly checks her cell phone

7.    She makes “turned-off gestures” – rolls her eyes (disdain), leans back and away from you, buttons her clothes, pulls down her sweater, dress or skirt to cover her body

Dr. Lillian Glass:

12 Ways Your Date is Going Well

If you date is going well your date is

1. leaning in towards you

2.smiling a lot

3.looking at you

4. asking you lots of questions about yourself

5. their toes are pointed in your direction

6. they laugh with you at your stories at jokes

7. they may fiddle with their hair

8 they may moisten their lips

9. their eyes glisten and pupils are somewhat larger(due to autonomic nervous system reaction when they like you)

10. they compliment you a lot

11. may touch you often

12. their head is up

12 Ways Your date is NOT Going Well

If your date is not going well

1. they won’t look at you directly or keep looking around the room

2. they will be critical, contentious,  and judgmental of what you say

3. they will mostly speak about themselves

4. they will speak at you not with you

5. they will pay more attention at their iPhone or other device

6. they will take calls in front of you

7. they will position their bodies away from you.

8. their heels will often  be off the ground as though they are ready to leave

9. their toes are pointed in the direction of the exit

10. they won’t initiate conversation and will be curt with answers

11.their arm may be covering their torso

12. shoulders will be rounded and they will look down a lot

Julie Ferman:

What body language would your date give off if the date is going well?   You know your date is going well when the person you’re with is:  holding eye contact with you, attentively and actively listening, and leaning toward you.  When your date touches your hand, shoulder or back, or playfully wipes a breadcrumb off your chin — these are good signs that there’s some chemistry developing.

What body language would your date give off if it’s not going so well?  If your date is distracted, eyes wandering, not focused in on you during the conversation, paying more attention to the cell phone, other people in the room or the TV behind you than to you…well….not so good.  Leaning away, pulling back, fidgeting, yawning, oh my…not good either.

Omer Khan:

There are two types of communication that take place between two people all the time, verbal and non verbal. The verbal component of communication is the “content” of speech or the spoken word. This makes up about 10% of the communication channel between any two people during an inter-personal interaction.

The other type of communication that takes place between two people and one which makes up 90% of the communication channel is the “non verbal” or rather the “context” of the spoken word. This would consist of the vocal tonality, vocal projection, facial expressions, eye movements, breathing patterns, positioning of legs/arms which underline what is said.

In fact, this is really what tells the “Tale” of what someone is thinking and feeling over anything else.

For instance if someone tells you that they are happy while exhibiting the following body language(sad and droopy eyes, a monotonus facial expression, a weak voice, etc) You will not believe them based on their words but will size up their real emotional state based on their body language.

On the other hand if someone says to you they are Sad while putting on a playful smile, a flirtatious facial expression, speak with a dominant and powerful voice, speak with a flirtatious vocal tonality, then you will not buy that either. You will know how they are really feeling based on their non verbal communication or body language once again.

We can use this fundamental guideline to communication to determine how our date is feeling towards us and to see if she is giving us IOI’s or Indicators of Interest or IOD’s, meaning Indicators of Disinterest.

What are some common body language signs that a woman is into us and not into us?

Well here they are.

The following is a list of Non verbal mannerism which imply a lack of  interest on a woman’ s part

1. She doesn’t make eye contact with you when interacting with you.

2  She checks her cell phone for texts/calls

3. She positions her body away from you, rather than facing you

4. She maintains distance from you physically

5. Her vocal tonality is monotonous

6. Her facial expressions are also monotonous and non flirtatious

7. She doesn’t smile

The following is a list of Non verbal mannerism which imply interest on a woman’ s part

1. She exhibits a nice playful, flirtatious smile

2. She looks deep into your eyes when talking with you

3. Both her vocal tonality and facial expressions are flirtatious

4. She positions her body in a way that closes the gap between you and her

5. She faces you

6. She doesn’t break her focus but pays close attention to what you are saying.

7. She will lick her lips and touch her hair.

Patti Wood:

1. The Head Toss and Hair Flick
In this preening gesture the head is flicked back to toss the hair over the shoulders or away from the face. Men’s eyes are designed to go toward movement. In this case it calls attention to the woman’s sexy, shiny hair–a signal of health. The man’s primal response is, “This woman would make healthy babies.” Even women with short hair will toss or flick back their hair. It’s also a way for a woman to subtly show that she cares about how she looks to a man.
2. Wet Lips and Pouting and or Mouth Slightly Open
Opening the mouth calls attention to them and pouting the lips mimics the sexual lips and creates an invitation to enter the lower lips.
When a woman becomes sexually aroused her lips, become larger and redder as they fill with blood. The use of lipstick is an Egyptian invention that is four thousand years old and is intended to mimic the reddened genitals of the sexually aroused female. This explains why, in experiments using photos of women wearing various lipstick colors, men consistently find the bright reds the most attractive and sensual.

3. Self-Touching
When a woman slowly and sensually strokes her thigh, neck, or throat it implies that if a man plays his cards right, he may be able to touch her in these same ways. She is saying I am doing this to me to let you know that you can do this to me. At the same time, her self-touch lets her imagine what it might feel like if the man was initiating the touch, which can be arousing for her and cause more of the sexual attraction changes to take place that make her more attractive to the man.

5. Fondling a Cylindrical Object
Fondling cigarettes, a finger, the stem of a wineglass, a dangling earring, or any phallic-shaped object is an unconscious indication of what may be in the mind. Taking a ring off and on the finger can also be a mental representation of having sex. When a woman does these things, a man is likely to symbolically try to possess her by fondling her cigarette lighter, car keys, or any personal item she has nearby.

6. Exposed Wrists and Palms
An interested woman will gradually expose the smooth, soft underside of her wrists to the potential male partner and will increase the rate she flashes her wrists as her interest grows. The wrist area has long been considered one of the highly erotic areas of the female body because it is one of the more delicate skin areas; it’s uncertain whether this is a learned behavior or is innate, but it certainly operates on an unconscious level. The palms are also usually made visible to the man while she’s speaking. Women who smoke find the wrist-palm exposure simple to do while not smoking by simply holding the palm up beside the shoulder. The Exposed Wrist and Head-Toss gestures are often mimicked by homosexual males who want to take on a feminine appearance.

7. Sideways Glance Over Raised Shoulder
The Raised Shoulder is self-mimicry of the rounded female breasts. With partially drooped eyelids, the woman holds the man’s gaze just long enough for him to notice, then she quickly looks away. This glance produces the feeling of peeping in the woman who does it and being peeped at by the man who receives it.

8. Rolling Hips
For childbearing reasons, women have wider hips than men and have a wider crotch gap between the legs. This means that when a woman walks she has an accentuated roll that highlights her pelvic region. Men can’t walk like this, so it becomes a powerful sex difference signal. It also explains why few women are good runners, because their wider hips make their legs splay out to the sides when they run. Rolling of the hips is one of the subtle female courtship gestures that has been used for centuries in advertising to sell goods and services.

9. Pelvic Tilt
Medical evidence shows that a woman in excellent health and most capable of successfully bearing children has a waist-to-hips ratio of 70%; that is, her waist is 70% the size of her hips. This gives her what’s known as an hourglass figure. Throughout recorded history, this is the body ratio that has proved the most dramatic male attention-grabber. Men begin to lose interest when the ratio exceeds 80% and for most men, the greater or lesser the ratio, the less attentive he will be. He completely loses interest when her ratio reaches 100% but still maintains a level of interest when it drops below 70%. To highlight this ratio she just tilts her pelvis when she stands.

10. Handbag in Close Proximity
Most men have never seen the contents of a woman’s handbag and studies show that most men are afraid even to touch her handbag, let alone open it. A woman’s handbag is a personal item that’s treated by her almost as if it’s an extension of her body and so it becomes a strong signal of intimacy when she puts it close to a man. If she finds him particularly attractive, she may slowly fondle and caress her handbag. She can ask him to pass the handbag or even to retrieve something from it. Placing the handbag near him so he can see it or touch it is a strong signal she’s interested; keeping it away from him indicates emotional distance.

11. The Knee Point
One leg is tucked under the other and points to the person she finds the most interesting. This is a relaxed position, which also takes the formality out of a conversation and gives the opportunity for a fleeting exposure of the thighs.

12. The Shoe Fondle
Dangling the shoe on the end of the foot also indicates a relaxed attitude and has the phallic effect of thrusting the foot in and out of the shoe. This action unsettles many men without them knowing what is happening.

13. The Leg Twine
Most men agree that the Leg Twine is the most appealing sitting position a woman can take. It’s a gesture that women consistently use to draw attention to their legs. One leg is pressed firmly against the other to give the appearance of high muscle tone, which is a condition that the body takes when a person is ready for sexual performance.

Other leg signals used by women include crossing and uncrossing the legs slowly in front of the man and gently stroking the thighs with her hand, indicating a desire to be touched.

Male Interest signals

You may notice this gesture when you’re sitting next to each other at the dinner table or at a bar. It’s subtle and may seem like an accident (for example, you brush shoulders sharing a menu or your knees bump), but may actually calculated contact to gauge your interest. If a guy is on the shy side, this approach seems like a “safe” way to see how you react–if you’re not into it, he won’t lose face if you recoil.

The playful punch.
This grade school move is what guys revert to when they like you but have no clue how to verbalize it (or they’re too nervous to). Men also relate to one another by rough housing, so your date may be trying to establish a bond. A punch between guys in a nonsexual way to say, “We are buddies” so for men it seems a sage way to say they like you.

The forearm graze.
If a man briefly places his touches you on your forearm as he is talking he may be reaching out to make sure he has your attention. He may be worried you’re losing interest and he’s trying to bring you back into the moment. If he touches you on the forearm while your talking it is more likely a sign of interest in you and what you have to say.

The hand on the back.
A guy who gently places his palm on your lower back (to guide you through a crowd, for example) is on his best behavior. He’s trying to make a good impression and let you know that he’s a gentleman. [Patti – this is from another expert, whom we cite below]

Notice how and where he places his hand. Is he gentle rather than possessivlivly gripping your back ? Where does he place his hand, in the sweet spot in the center of the back or lower.

Male disinterest signal

If his hand creeps lower signal of male displeasure, a little pat on the back. Women tend to give a man a pat on the back, when a man they are not attracted to gives them hug. They pat to say to the man, “I am not accepting this hug as a sexual contact.” Or, it could send a stronger message, “Down boy.” Men as well as women, use the pat as a signal there is a lack of sexual interest signal. That does not mean that every pat says, “Let’s call the whole thing off.” But is does sometimes mean you are being admonished subconsciously or treated as a child. Note that the bigger the pat the less intimacy communicated.

Graham Stoney:

Q: “What body language would your date give off if the date is going well? What body language would your date give off if it’s not going so well?”

A: The tell-tale sign that a date is going well is open body language. Body language often gives more signals about what’s really going on in a person’s mind than what they say. If you’re a guy, look out for obvious signs like whether the women you’re with smiles when you speak, laughs at your playful comments, and makes consistent friendly eye contact with you. Also notice whether her posture towards you is open, and whether she plays with her hair. If she reaches out and touches you occasionally, it’s a sign she’s very comfortable around you; even if she’s playfully hitting you with “I can’t believe you said that!”. Most guys play it too safe and conservative when meeting women and if you want her to respond positively, you need to create fun and make her feel good around you; her body language will reflect whether she’s with you or not.

On the other hand, you’ll know it’s not going so well if her posture towards you is closed, she’s giving you the cold shoulder, or she’s glancing around the room as if she can’t wait to get out of there. It’s OK to call her on this playfully; in fact it would be inauthentic to not respond to negative body language or to pretend not to notice. Commenting gives her the opportunity to get back on track with you. She may be unaware of the signals she’s sending when in fact she likes you. She could also just be nervous, so if the conversation has been going well and she’s been asking you about yourself or talking quite freely about herself, just go with the flow and notice if she relaxes and her body language signals become more positive. Also watch your own body language; she may simply be mirroring you, and if your body language lacks openness and confidence you may be making her feel uneasy. The more confident and at ease in yourself you are, the more likely she’ll be at ease too.

Make every effort to be fun, engaging, and make your date feel comfortable around you. Don’t just be a regular guy; go the extra mile and be willing to take risks to create fun and laughter in your conversation with her. Your aim should be to make her enjoy herself, not to get her to like you or to seek her validation. If she persists in giving you dismissive signals both verbally and in her body language, you know it’s time to wind up your date and spend your time with someone more appreciative of what you have to offer. Always remember that you are the prize.

Janine Driver:

Well firstly, one of my favorite things to teach is my “belly button rule.” We tend to point our belly buttons to people who we like, admire and trust. On a date, when we like a person, our belly buttons show it by facing them. The same rule applies if someone is not interested. When we are not enjoying ourselves and wishing we were elsewhere, our bodies tend to unconsciously face a door or an exit. When people face their belly buttons away, they might be giving you a “cold shoulder.” So next time, see if your date’s bellybutton is pointing at you, or pointing at an out, as if preparing to run away! Use your “Navel Intelligence!”

Secondly, check out their other powerzones. We already went over one, the bellybutton. The other two are the neck dimple and what I like to call “the naughy bits.” When we leave our neck dimples open, especially women, it’s usually a sign of confidence. Ladies who cover up their neck dimples with scarves might be insecure. Also when girls cover their neck dimples with their hands, they might be uninterested or wanting to be elsewhere. Keep in mind that whenever one part of our body touches another, it’s as if we’re saying “it’ll be alright, I’ll get through this.”

Now to the naughty bits, Men in particular tend to do “crotch displays.” When a confident man sits in a figure four position with one ankle over the other knee, it’s as if they’re saying, “look what I have to offer!” Ladies should see this as a man who is confident and probably interested!

Then there’s the hair. Women tend to touch and play with their hair in different ways, for different reasons. There’s the flirty hair tousle that women tend to do, However, when you see a woman braiding her hair or picking at their ends, it might imply that they’re bored or uninterested.

Lastly, believe it or not, the direction to which you tilt your head makes you be perceived in different ways! When you tilt your head to the left, you tend to be perceived as more intelligent When you tilt your head to the right, you tend to look more attractive. This is also the way women tend to tilt when they’re feeling flirtatious!

Vincent Harris:

When it comes to knowing whether your date is “into” you, or not, there are nonverbal clues-body language- that will offer anyone a far more accurate way to know what’s really going on. One useful way of thinking about a first date, is that it’s a time when two “liar’s” meet. Think about it; do most people behave the same way around someone they just met, that they would with someone they have been in a relationship with for 5 years, or the way they act when they are home alone? Of course not; we will present ourselves in the best light possible, and then slowly, over time, begin to show the aspects of our behavior we’re not sure how others will respond to. If they don’t throw a fit, we’ll be willing to show even more.

Most of us have been conditioned by parents and loved ones-very early in life-to be polite to others, and not hurt their feelings. Interestingly, we experience a conflict very early on, when our instructions to “be polite” and orders to “never lie” clash in a head-on collision. As most of us know, in many situations, “being polite” will win out over “never lying”, and we will say something nice, or “polite” rather than telling the truth.

Perhaps you’ve experienced the challenges this can create when you are in the dating world, meeting new people, and trying to determine how sincere they are, and how attracted they are to you. Fortunately, when you know what to look for, you can quickly and easily determine whether they think you’re “hot”, or not.

So, let’s take a look at some signs that your date is glad they are with you, and hoping you feel the same way, and, signs that indicate you’ll probably never hear from them again once the date is over.

One of my favorites, not only tells you a lot about how they feel, but in gathering the information you are looking for, you’ll be building rapport, and connecting with them on a far more intimate level. When we are aroused, our pupils will enlarge; not only will they dilate significantly, but there is virtually nothing we can do to stop it. Therefore, the pupils give us unfettered feedback about what someone else is experiencing. The nice thing about this is that in order to notice the size of their pupils, you have to make eye contact with them in a way that say’s “I am really listening to you-I notice you!” If you don’t see enlarged pupils, or perhaps even notice that their pupils are constricted, or smaller, you might want to start thinking about the next person you’ll ask out after this date is over. As an example of how effective this can be, I’ll often have someone think of two people; someone they thinking is very attractive, and someone they can’t stand. Then, over and over again, I’ll say “Think of one or the other” and then tell them exactly which one they were thinking of. With one woman, who initially thought I was just getting “lucky”, I told her 46 straight times who she was thinking of, before she finally said “Wow!”

Has your date briefly touched you on the hand, arm, or shoulder when talking and making a point? If so, you are very likely in good shape. We rarely have the desire to make physical contact with someone we aren’t attracted to, so, when it happens, it’s a clear signal that say’s “I have accepted you” Keep in mind, none of these signs are an indication that things can’t turn and go in the other direction if they encounter something about you that their “Threat detector” finds offensive or threatening, but they do offer a wonderful form feedback about the path you’ve been on up to that point.

One thing you can do to get things rolling during a conversation, is reach over and touch the back of their hand when making a point. You might say something, and finish with “you know what I mean!?” as you simultaneously and lightly touch their hand. As you do, watch their pupils; if they like you, their pupils will most likely swell when you touch them on the hand. If they don’t like you, their pupils will almost certainly get smaller. Hundreds of years ago, gem traders would wear dark colored glasses to conceal their pupils from others. They knew that if they were looking at an emerald or other gem that they really wanted, their pupils would reflect their desire, and they would likely be asked a higher price. One only need watch  the high level poker players on ESPN to examples of sunglasses being used to conceal pupils in modern times.

Being able to see the lower half of someone’s body can be very useful, especially in the dating world. Even when people do happen to be paying attention to their own body language signals, and are working to mask body language that might send “impolite” messages, they will almost never have any awareness of what the lower half of their body is doing. For this reason, the legs and feet can be particularly precise in the answers they provide. In short, when we are talking to someone, face to face, whether seated or standing, our feet will be pointing straight towards them if we are interested in them and/or what they are saying.

What about when we’re not interested in them? Often times, you’ll see two people talking in a bar, for example, and from the waist up, all looks good; they are face to face. However, when you look at their feet, you’ll often see one of them with their feet pointing off to the side, or away from the person they are facing with the upper half of their body. This is the more unconscious part of their brain preparing for an escape. So, if your date keeps those toes aimed right at you, they feel probably comfortable enough with you that no “threat” signals have been triggered. This, as you might imagine, is critical; if you trigger their “threat” alarm, you may have to spend all night trying to get them back into their comfort zone, which may, or may not happen.

Of course, there are lots of other things that can let you know how you’re being perceived by your date, and whether they are attracted to you, but you don’t want to try and keep track of too many things at once, or that might end up being one of the reasons why they get a “bad vibe” from you; you won’t be paying attention to what they’re saying, and they’ll sense it. You’re far better off, at least initially, to start with 2-3 things to watch for and notice. This will allow you to be light years ahead of most people when it comes to knowing how your date is feeling, but will leave enough of your attention available to make them feel as special as you’d like to feel.

Vincent Harris

www.VinceHarris.com

Susan Constantine:

The first clue about how well your date is going happens in the moment you first glimpse each other.  Watch your date’s eyes. If your date is interested in you at first glance, you will see a flash of his or her eyebrows – a quick, almost imperceptible raising of the eyebrows that says Oh, wow, I wasn’t expecting that.

Yes, men and women both will sneak a peek at your entire physical appearance at some point during the first date. But ladies, take note: a gentleman who is interested in the potential of a long term relationship will demonstrate enough restraint to otherwise keep his eyes above the shoulders.

If the date is going well, you will find that you and your date have synchronized your body positions. Your bodies will align, turning directly toward each other, navel to navel, leaning in.

If your date is listening to you intently, his or her head will tilt in a listening position. You might see him or her unconsciously looking at your lips. That’s a sign that your date is wondering what it would feel like to kiss you.

Watch your date’s vulnerable points: the neck, wrists and ankles. Touching the neck, pushing up the sleeves to reveal the wrists and neck, and men crossing their legs with one ankle on the other knee opens the area up to show confidence, masculinity, and naughty bits. Conversely, keeping the top shirt button closed, crossed arms, and holding his/her body close, are signs of low confidence and guarded. If your date angles shoulders, feet or body towards the exit sign are signs your date is saying he looking for a way out the door.

If you and your date click, you’ll see it as much as feel it: Endorphins kick in that will add sparkle to your eyes. The eyes will dilate, the nose will flare, the skin will flush. Women might give what I call the “Princess Diana look” in which their heads are turned down slightly while their eyes look up. Women will glide their hands up and down their legs, purse their lips in what I call a “lip pump,” kick off the heel of their shoe and swing their leg. Men and women will “strike a pose,” keeping good body posture which shows off their assets. Men will pump out their chests to appear more masculine. And both sexes will groom their bodies by stroking or tossing their hair or adjusting their clothes; women might even pick lint off the man.

And here’s a very important clue that is counter-intuitive. If your date really likes you and hopes for a longer relationship, your date is going to try to behave more reserved than he or she actually feels. No big, open-faced, over-powering greeting. Instead, you’re going to see micro-gestures in the smile, little flickers of happiness.

In some ways, a date that is going badly is more readily apparent. If your date cuts the evening short, eats quickly, looks at his or her watch, or yawns, guess what? This date isn’t going well! Fidgeting, looking at other people, averting the eyes, leaning back, unaligned bodies send up red flags. So does a date whose legs, hips or shoulders are facing the exit.

Reading the silent messages can tell you more than words how to interpret that important first date.

Susan Constantine

Body language Expert

www.silentmessages.com

Getting out of town doesn’t always have to mean an extended trip—so grab your keys and a change of clothes. We’ve found twenty resources for you to pour over and help find that last minute, yet perfect, day trip or weekend escape.

The best part? The possibilities are endless and there is something unique for every couple and personality. Go wine tasting, outlet shopping, trail exploring, or site seeing. You’ll be sure to find something excitingly new and different to try in the next city or even your own neighborhood.

So relax. Enjoy a little R&R with a weekend away from all the stress of home and spend some quality time with that special someone.

20 Travel Blogs to Plan Your Next  Destination Getaway

1.  Masters at Travel—Find a variety of fun tips and tools to use in planning the perfect weekend getaway with your significant other.

2.  Holidays for Couples—Get inspired and get out of town. This travel and lifestyle blog discusses an assortment of ideas for idyllic retreats and weekend day trips to choose from.

3.  Across and Abroad—David Webb’s travel blog gives the ultimate travel tips and advice in planning that immaculate weekend away—whether it’s around the block or in a new town.

4.  Adventures with Ben—Find the inner adventurer in you and experience something new and fun. Ben’s blog shares his own travels and gives advice and ideas for a weekend away from home.

5.  She Knows—Find the perfect ideas for enjoying a relaxing day or evening out somewhere special.

6.  Mr. & Mrs. Smith—This travel blog provides hand-picked details on perfect romantic getaways in an all-in-one handy guide.

7.  Virginia’s Travel Blog—From scenic routes along the coast to tent camping at a state park. Find all the best travel ideas here to get the most out of your getaway.

8.  Travels With Clara—Yolanda Edwards’ blog gives creative and fun ideas on places to go, the best way to get there, and what to do once you’re there.

9.  The Savvy Traveler—No matter where you’re located this blog is sure to have a perfect weekend escape plan to fit your region.

10. Day Trips & Weekend Getaways—Find fun and interesting places to visit and all the tips you need to know before you go.

11. DC Event Junkie—Lisa Byrne’s personal blog is the perfect tool for planning a flawless day trip. Filled with tips and tools to use when you’re ready to plan that quick getaway.

12. Honeymoon Travel Blog—Whether you’re looking to leave town next month or this Friday, this travel blog has the best ideas for planning your weekend up to the very last detail or down to the very a last minute.

13. Luv Trip Blog—Melanie Reffes’ blog gives great ideas for romantic weekend getaways. Check out her blog to find new spots to try for something fun and exciting.

14. Romantic Vacations for Two—This blog features last minute getaway ideas all over the globe. Search the best places to go from Chicago, Seattle, San Francisco, or anywhere in between.

15. The Vacation Gals—Written by three professional travel writers, Jennifer Miner, Kara Williams and Beth Blair. They share helpful travel tips about their favorite destinations for romantic escapes.

16. TM Travel Blog—This blog has plenty to offer for unique getaways all across the globe. Find the perfect hotel or resort for a relaxing weekend stay, plus ideas on what to do while you’re there.

17. Travel Smart Blog—Nicole Hockin offers her smart take on all things travel. Learn how to plan a relaxing weekend trip away without breaking your budget.

18. Weekend Getaway Blog—Find ideas for any time of year on how to plan a cheap and relaxing perfect getaway with that special someone.

19. Transient Travels—A travel blog that captures fleeting, everyday adventures. Learn from Susan, an avid traveller, about ideas and tips for places to go and what to do while you’re away from home.

20. I Love the Weekends—Sort through a selection of fun, relaxing, romantic, food related, and culturally stimulating travel locations across the Northeastern parts of the US for your next weekend getaway.

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Going through a divorce is a tough thing to do… so we have compiled a list to help ease the pain. Here you will find 12 sites that will help you if you are trying to decide to have a divorce, going through a divorce, or post-divorce. You will be sure to get any information you need pertaining to divorce!

-100 Best Dating Sites –Dating can be tough, especially after a divorce. Here you can find a list of the 100 best dating sites that cover all areas. So, if you have just gone through a divorce this site is sure to help you find somewhere to find love.

-Divorce Dating Post – This site provides a lot of information for men, women, and even children when it comes to going through a divorce, and getting back into the dating world after a divorce. So, no matter where you are at with your divorce this site is guaranteed to help.

-Divorce 360 – Divorce 360 has just that, 360 degrees of divorce information. You have information for if you are deciding to have a divorce, going through a divorce, and following a divorce. Check this one out!

-Over 40 and Single – Typically those who get divorced are a little bit older, so this site focuses on them. Here those who are 40 and single can find that special someone. Over 40 and Single proves you’re never too old to find love!

-The Love Fish – The Love Fish shows readers how to quickly and easily get back into the dating game. This site shows that there is no reason to be afraid or intimidated to get back into the dating scene

-Secrets to a Successful Divorce –Shhh! This site has some secrets that are truly helpful to get through your divorce. So, sneak on over and check this site out.

-Post Divorce Dating Club – Divorced? Join the club! Post divorce dating club is here to help all of those who have gone through a divorce.

-Gios Dating Advice – In need of some dating advice? Well, check this site out. Gio’s Dating Advice is here to answer any questions you have about the dating world.

-The Modern Woman’s Divorce Guide – Being a modern woman can be tough, especially if you are going through a divorce. Here you can find retreats, coaching, and various products to help you with your divorce.

-Fix My Love – Need marriage device so you can avoid the dreaded “D” word? Well, fix my love is here to help you avoid a divorce or to even just fix your relationship you are in.

-Dating Secrets for Divorced Women – Are you divorced and a woman? Check out this site to help you make sure you avoid marrying the wrong man a second (or a few more times) around.

-Date Life Tips – Date Life Tips helps you move up in life! Here you can find Gurus, books and many other things to help you be successful with your dating life.

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Succeeding at dating can be hard. That’s why DatingWebsites.org has compiled a group of experts to answer one question to help the unsuccessful…. Become successful! The question: “What is the most important thing to have in order to succeed at a date? (ex. things you say, qualities to have, etc)”

DatingWebsites.org Successful Dating Expert Panel

• Dr. Ivan Young
• Tom Blake
• Henning Wiechers
• Dr. Patty Ann
• Coach Marcie
• Jane Atkinson

Dr. Ivan Young:   Dr. D Ivan Young continues to tear down barriers and transform lives. His simple, direct, and uncomplicated discussions spark new thinking and heal broken people. His insightful yet, provocative teaching style on complex relationship subjects has been hailed by millions of fans across the country as remarkable. Dr. D’s effectual and powerful dialogue has helped women, men, singles, couples, families and organizations develop healthy relationships and understand their true intended purpose despite challenges.   Recognized as the premier life coach for 21st Century by millions of Urban Americans, Dr. D is the best-selling author of Break Up, Don’t Break Down. He is also President and CEO of Reality -N- 3D Publishing Inc., and a sought-after Life Coach globally. Dr. D Ivan Young’s personal experience of turmoil and pitfalls associated with self-serving relationships create a strong commonality with his readers. Catapulted to a personal journey and process of transformation, Dr. D triumphed and eliminated insurmountable obstacles that metamorphed him professionally and spiritually. Dr. D Ivan Young has developed effective no-nonsense tools that enable women and men of all ages, races, religions and nationalities to take personal authority of their ultimate destiny and overcome seemingly hopeless circumstances.   Dr. D was awarded the Vice Chancellors Award for leadership from the University of Houston and is currently an esteemed member of the International Coach Federation. In addition, Dr. D continually gives back to the community by focusing his attention on the mentorship of at risk youth. Over the years, Dr. D Ivan Young has been featured on FOX News Houston, MSNBC, CNN, ABC, NBC, CBS Radio, Access Hollywood, Gospel Impact Radio, Divine Canada Women’s Magazine, Yahoo News Groups, Rolling Out Magazine, BKS1 Radio.com, 24 Hour Mom Radio, Your Time with Kim, Juice and Jam Morning Show, CBS Television’s Great Day Houston featuring Deborah Duncan, WOL 1450 AM Washington DC, KTSU, KPVU, WHUR, KMJQ Magic 102 Houston, 98.7 WRKS Kiss FM New York, Valder Beebee Global Broadcast, Keeping it Real with Al Sharpton on Syndication One,  and the Tom Pope Show to name a few. His most recent book, a best seller, Break Up, Don’t Break Down released by Reality -N- 3D Publishing in April, 2010. His upcoming works include the revised edition of Break Up, Don’t Break Down – The Relationship Survival Guide,  the republishing of the revision of Tired of Being Alone, and two scheduled book releases in 2012, titled Second Chances, and How to Meet, and Marrying the Right Man… Dr. D currently resides in Houston, TX, and when he‟s not writing, lecturing or traveling, he enjoys meditation, karate, physical fitness and ultimately being a complete and whole person.  He holds a Doctorate in Psychology specializing in Holistic Life Coaching, from the University of Sedona, and Masters  degree in Metaphysical Science from the University of Metaphysics.   See Dr. Ivan’s Response Here…   Tom Blake:   “Tom Blake is an expert on Dating After 50,” John Gray (Mars and Venus) Tom Blake has written more than 2,217 newspaper articles from the male-point-of-view on dating and finding love after 50. After 17 years of writing for the Orange County Register, in March, 2011, Tom switched to a syndicate of newspapers owned by Picket Fence Media, publisher of the San Clemente Times, Dana Point Times, and San Juan Capistrano Dispatch. Tom has made multiple appearances on the Today Show and Good Morning America. He has been a keynote speaker at several AARP national events. He has published three books on dating after 50: “Middle Aged and Dating Again “Finding Love After 50. How to Begin. Where to Go. What to Do.” “How 50 Couples Found Love After 50” In addition, Tom authored a memoir titled, “Prime Rib & Boxcars: Whatever Happened to Victoria Station?” His  www.FindingLoveAfter50 website is #1 (out of 266,000,000 results) on Google for the keyword phrases “Finding Love After 50” and “Love After 50.” He has published the Finding Love After 50 e-newsletter for more than 10 years. Distribution is worldwide. Tom has an MBA from The University of Michigan and a BA from DePauw University. He resides in San Clemente, California, with Greta, his life partner of 13 years. Tom has owned and operated Tutor and Spunky’s Deli in Dana Point for 23 years. He continues to manage the business on a daily basis. www.TutorandSpunkys.com To contact Tom: tompblake@gmail.com Other websites: www.FindingLoveAfter50.com;  www.50Couples.com;  www.TravelAfter55.com

See Tom’s Response Here…

Henning Wiechers (NO PICTURE PROVIDED):

Henning Wiechers

www.leadingdatingsites.co.uk

Over 10 years in the online dating industry, running dating reviews sites in 12 countries.

See Henning’s Response Here…

Dr. Patty Ann:

Dr. Patty Ann is a sought-after public speaker, author and confidant to other professionals in the field of relationship advice. Dr. Patty Ann is a world renowned relationship expert and a communication expert who has helped hundreds of people learn how to increase romance and happiness in their relationships. Dr. Patty Ann has

been featured as a relationship expert on ABC, NBC, CBS, FOX NEWS and radio shows around the country. She has been interviewed for SUCCESS Magazine, Fortune, CNN Postcards, Women Entrepreneur Magazine, Glamour Magazine and other major publications. Dr. Patty Ann has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, a Master’s Degree in Clinical Social Work, a Master’s Degree in Nursing, and is a Registered Nurse. Dr. Patty Ann is also a board-certified psychotherapist, having graduated from a prestigious three-year postgraduate psychotherapy training program.

Dr. Patty Ann writes a relationship advice ezine called Two Hearts Beating As One TM and a relationship advice blog at: www.drpattyann.com/blog. Dr. Patty Ann has been happily married for over 25 years while raising four children together with her husband; along with owning her own entrepreneurial business.

See Dr. Patty’s Response Here…

Coach Marcie:

Coach Marcie writes for her own site CoachMarcie.com

See Coach Marcie’s Response Here…

Jane Atkinson:

Jane Atkinson is the author of The Frog Whisperer:  A 3-Step Approach to Finding Lasting Love (due out Dec. 2012 Live Oak).  She lives in London, Canada (in her dream house on the river) with her husband John.  To get a sneak peak of the book and to visit the Frog Blog go to www.frogwhisperer.com

See Jane’s Response Here…

 

Dr. Ivan Young:

“What is the most important thing to have in order to succeed at a date? (ex. things you say, qualities to have, etc)”

To be successful at dating authenticity is key. More than often people concern themselves with making a good impression, which isn’t a bad thing, but it is far more important to think past the moment. Focus on the quality of the interaction. Let’s assume this date actually works out, but the person you introduced them too isn’t the real you. Then what? Obviously, that will convert your bliss, to a hot mess. Keep it real, you allow your date to like you for you are, as well as what you aren’t, as opposed to whom you’re pretending to be. Stop trying to be perfect, just be sincere.

Second, listening is a big piece of attracting and keeping someones attention. Men really need to take note here. Women, and men, want to know you’re paying attention to them. There is an old saying, “listen twice as much as you talk.” Make sure you remember the persons name, repeat back some of what’s said to you. Using phrases like, that’s interesting, how did that make you feel, what happened next, will catalyze the conversation. Also, revealing commonalities is a huge plus. People feel comfortable when the know they share values and interest with you.

Lastly, good hygiene and good manners go a long way. Fresh scent, a new hair cut, good cologne, fresh breath in addition to being well dressed makes a great first impression. Also, being courteous, empathetic, and polite compliment the external presentation. Aside from being physically attracted to a potential mate, both sexes said a pleasing personality is the most significant quality they look for. Nobody wants to be around someone that is unkept, and unpleasant. Don’t be pretentious, be authentically the best you possible. Small things like opening doors, saying thank you, and paying a well time compliment works wonders. For more information on positioning yourself for real authentic love to find you visit Dr. D at www.divanyoung.com. His new book Break Up, Don’t Break Down will help you move past that mess of a relationship and move you toward finding the love of your life, It also available on his website.

Tom Blake:

“What is the most important thing to have in order to succeed at a date? (ex. things you say, qualities to have, etc)”

First, be yourself. If you try to be somebody you’re not, you will fail. Don’t talk too much about yourself. Make eye contact.

Be a good listener and ask questions of the other person to deflect the conversation away from you. Seem truly interested (even if you’re not) but not overly eager. Don’t dwell on ex spouses or ex boyfriends or how someone did you dirt. We’ve all had our bumps and bruises.

Be upbeat and have a positive attitude. Smile often, show a sense of humor.

Dress nicely, but not flashy. Be sure your clothes are clean and pressed.

If you’re a guy, have the date planned out and be confident with you plan. At the same time, be considerate of her.

If you’re a woman, and he asks, “Where would you like to go?” have an answer prepared.

Both people should be humble. Avoid dropping hints about how rich you are or how you love your Rolls Royce.

Most of all, have fun.

Henning Wiechers:

“What is the most important thing to have in order to succeed at a date? (ex. things you say, qualities to have, etc)”

In my opinion, the most important things to have to succeed at a date are self-confidence, a sense of humor and the ability to show interest in the other person.
If you put too much emphasis on the right words to say, you’ll seem insecure and doubious. On the other hand, leaning back and hoping the other person will simply “sense” who you are and what makes you special isn’t productive either, of course.
One should try to find a good combination of telling his/her date about oneself and showing interest in him/her by asking questions and listening attentively to what he/she is saying.
Taking a date too seriously will make you seem desperate which in most cases signifies the end. It’s important to keep in mind that both are just “checking out” – if it works out well, that’s great. If not, no one should take it personal but keep looking or rather dating. This will help having a relaxing time and it will be easier to make jokes, laugh and just have fun.

So, I would recommend anyone wanting to go on a date, to start practicing self-confidence, showing real interest in other people and being sometimes funny.

Dr. Patty Ann:

“What is the most important thing to have in order to succeed at a date? (ex. things you say, qualities to have, etc)”

Without hesitation or reservation, the most important thing a person must have to succeed at a date is confidence.  Confidence in their belief that they are a worthy, unique person who makes a significant contribution to the world just by being on this planet.  When we exude confidence in
ourselves, others will feel this confidence and we will attract confident people to ourselves.

Coach Marcie:

“What is the most important thing to have in order to succeed at a date? (ex. things you say, qualities to have, etc)”

You need to be strong, have humor and trust your gut. So you’re still single and feel powerless.  The truth is, you have all the power you need so shut your brain off and … relax.

You should always stay true to yourself and what you’re looking for when you’re dating. So many times we give our power over to another. This can happen if you allow yourself to settle on issues that are important to you. Deep inside yourself  you know when this is happening.

We date or get involved with people who are not ideal for us just so we get a moment of pleasure or don’t want to be alone. So we begin to settle on the idea that it’s better than nothing.

We all have personal power within us. What makes us feel powerful and what doesn’t? There are times when my inner voice is so strong that I cannot avoid doing what’s best for me. It’s really about doing what is right.  To learn more about solving you dating dilemmas purchase my first eBook “Dating Ain’t For Sissies, Baby!” on my site www.coachmarcie.com or the Kindle Store on Amazon. www.amazon.com/dp/B005VGEB8K for only $4.99

Jane Atkinson:

“What is the most important thing to have in order to succeed at a date? (ex. things you say, qualities to have, etc)”

I really believe that showing up “fabulous” is the best way to arrive at a date.  When we are the best version of ourselves, we’re more apt to attract someone who is perfect for us.  Have you ever noticed that when your mojo is off, you attract losers?  I can certainly relate to that and kissed many (many) frogs as a result!

Sometimes it means doing a little self work before starting to date.  Let’s say you’re feeling kind of frumpy or out of shape, you really want to get a great haircut or get to the gym for a few weeks.  But often, the issues run deeper.  Maybe you’re highly wounded after a bitter divorce.  If that’s the case, then get to work reconnecting with yourself first.  The more “in love” you are with you, the more ready to date you will be.  When we seek someone to rescue us or make us happy, it often ends badly.

Bottom line, get into a happy, fabulous space first, and you’ll show up for that date and knock their socks off (or maybe more…. wink wink).

Jane Atkinson is the author of The Frog Whisperer:  A 3-Step Approach to Finding Lasting Love (due out Dec. 2012 Live Oak).  She lives in London, Canada (in her dream house on the river) with her husband John.  To get a sneak peak of the book and to visit the Frog Blog go to www.frogwhisperer.com

The mystery of love is greater than the mystery of life. –Oscar Wilde

Have you ever thought of asking a psychic for advice on your love life? Psychics are quickly making their way into the world of dating and aiming to help solve the mysteries behind love and relationships.

On March 19^th psychic Jennifer Rogers made an appearance on Bravo’s, The Real Housewives of New York City. The psychic used her gifts with two of the women giving advice and revealing stark accuracies about love, dating, and relationships.

Discover this new trend in dating with the help of a psychic’s enlightening and remarkable insight. Check out our list of the Top 50 Psychic Blogs and uncover the mysteries to your own love life.

1. Jennifer Rogers Medium – Psychic, medium and medical intuitive Jennifer Rogers transcends generations, cultures and time. Her ability to touch the lives of others through her vision, intuition and compassion has earned her recognition throughout the country as her audience continues to grow.
2. Practical Tarot Readings –Tarot expert Barbara Moore discusses Tarot techniques, tips, and tricks.
3. Ellie’s World Blog – Ellie Crystal is a Psychic, Teacher, Author, Researcher, Lecturer, and Broadcaster. Ellie has made guest appearances on CBS, Fox, UPN news, as well as endless live radio and Internet talk shows. Visit her blog for her insights on Metaphysics and science.
4. Mary K. Greer’s Tarot Blog – Mary K. Greer is a scholar, writer, teacher, and professional Tarot consultant. With over forty years of experience in tarot she advocates a revolutionary approach that emphasizes personal insight and creativity.
5. Beth Layne’s Blog – Beth Layne is an empathic psychic medium who guides individuals through personal development with psychic and spirit readings.
6. Psychic But Sane – Anna Conlan is a professional intuitive, healer, and a teacher of intuitive development.
7. Corrine Kenner’s Tarot & Astrology Blog – Corrine Kenner specializes in bringing metaphysical subjects down to earth. She’s written twelve books, spoke at national and international tarot conferences, and taught tarot classes.
8. Bonnie Cehovet’s Tarot Blog – Bonnie Cehovet is a Certified Tarot Grand Master, a professional Tarot reader with over twelve years of experience, and co-founder of the World Tarot Network.
9. Angela Moore’s Blog – Angela is a nationally known, reputable and spiritual psychic and spiritual consultant. She offers suggestions, shares insights, & relays experiences from a psychic’s perspective.
10. Shift Your Spirits – Slade Roberson possesses the psychic ability of clairaudient intuition and gives details to his intuitive experiences.
11. Baker’s World – Inspirational blogger Kevin Jacinto uses meditation and telekinesis to empower other people’s lives.
12. Musings On The Tarot – Arwen offers professional, compassionate Tarot readings and consultations as well as various workshops on Tarot.
13. Humming Witch Blog – Eva Asantewaa discusses metaphysical musings and offers psychic counseling.
14. Explore Meditation Blog – Nigel Coates uses various meditative methods in connecting with your inner being.
15. A State Of Mind Blog – This blog teaches psychic development and spiritual growth, everything from learning the basics of meditation and mind work, to energy work, psychic readings and more.
16. Kris Cahill’s Blog – Kris Cahill is a psychic reader, healer, teacher, and writer. She has been working and teaching as a psychic since 2000. She emphasizes the power of clairvoyance and meditation.
17. Peaceful Whispers Blog – Lena Townsend is a Registered Metaphysical Practitioner (RMP) with the World Metaphysical Association. She is a Certified Tarot Master and has been reading Tarot for over ten years.
18. Donna Leigh’s Tarot Blog – Donna Leigh is certified in Quantum Touch Healing and also a Certified Professional Tarot Reader. Visit her blog for tips on meditation and Tarot insight.
19. Psychic Mind Spirit – Jim Cassa offers psychic readings as well as articles on Tarot, Psychic Mediums, and on some of the best clairvoyant coaching in mind, body, and spirit.
20. Heidi Sawyer’s Blog – Heidi Sawyer is an intuitive consultant and psychic reader. Her blog discusses psychic secrets and new mindsets for spiritual development.
21. The Intuitive Perspective – Bonita Summers is a working psychic who blogs to help readers learn to trust their intuition and connect with their authentic selves.
22. Gaian Soul Blog – Joanna Powell Colbert uses Gaian Tarot as a tool for personal insight and spiritual growth. She is an artist and author and offers practical inspiration for transforming your life.
23. Tarot Thoughts Blogs – Matt Williams offers intuitive guidance through Tarot readings in creating a road map to your life.
24. The Secret Vault of Visions – Scott Ufford is a psychic visionary who brings people expert psychic spiritual guidance and powerful angelic healing.
25. Lisa K. Medium – Lisa Kay is devoted to fostering the physical-spiritual connection of personal growth through medium-ship.
26. Tarot With Nale & Company – Nale uses Tarot cards to explore Tarot Dynamics and Numerology.
27. Psychic Medium Melinda – Melinda Carver is a Clairvoyant and Clairaudient Medium receiving and passing on messages from spirit guides and deceased loved ones.
28. The Tarot Lady Blog – Theresa Reed is based in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, she specializes in Tarot readings and has hosted a live Blog Talk Radio Program.
29. The S Word Blog – Anthon St. Maarten is an international psychic advisor, clairvoyant medium, intuitive consultant and destiny coach.  He takes special interest in parapsychology, paranormal research and psychic phenomena.
30. Angels Tarot Blog – Anton has been performing intuitive Tarot and oracle card readings for over 10 years.
31. Diary Of A Psychic Medium – Jake Shaw discusses his psychic and mediumistic experiences with the Spirit World. This blog covers everything from out of body experiences and connecting with spirit to Ouija board experiences and missing persons cases.
32. Linda West’s Blog – Linda has a Master’s Degree in Metaphysics and is a certified Angel Reader. Linda is the author of the acclaimed book, 8 Keys: A Special Delivery Message from the Angels and is the Radio Show Host of Empowered Life.
33. Kelly Hampton’s Blog – Kelly Hampton is a compassionate spiritual intuitive, psychic detective, visionary, mentor, a compelling speaker, media personality, spiritual author and star healing intergalactic energy practitioner.
34. Higher Psychism – Shamala Swee Bee Tan is a Holistic Life Coach and a spiritual teacher, and she is extremely gifted in the area of energy healing & channeling.
35. Symbolic Meanings Blog – Avia Venefica explores meditation and tarot interpretation on her blog.
36. The American Witch – J.V. Krakowski is spiritual guide, mentor, and teacher. Her blog discusses her special interest in Psychic Phenomena.
37. Psychic Medium Morgana Star – Morgana Starr is an empowerment coach, spiritual advisor, Reiki master, and teacher.
38. Of The Soul Blog – Elisa Nicholas shares her experiences and perspectives as an intuitive reader and provides resources and information within her blog.
39. Powered by Intuition – This blog provides intuitive wisdom for successful living through clairvoyant, psychic, and tarot readings.
40. Psychic Andi’s Blog – Andi Benandanti gives psychic and metaphysical advice for everyday living.
41. Shirley Scott’s Blog – Shirley Scott is a clairvoyant, animal communicator and medium. She conducts readings on both humans and animals.
42. Ask Zuri Blog – Zuri Eberhart is a fourth generation psychic and spiritual intuitive. Her blog contains psychic articles, astrology forecasts, angel messages, tarot, and numerology insights.
43. Azzrian Visions Blog – Azzrian gives spiritual guidance about soul mate relationships, romance, careers and more. Visit her blog to learn about horoscopes, crystals, runes and tarot.
44. Soul Insights Blog – Michele Meiche is a Psychic Medium, Channel, and Spiritual Life Coach.
45. Daily Muse Blog – Debra Taitel’s blog contains writing on clairvoyant readings, healings, and spiritual coaching.
46. Psychic Guild Blog – The Universal Psychic Guild provides accurate psychic readings about life, love, and success from some of the best psychics in the world.
47. A Psychic Seer Life Coach Blog – Kent is a clairvoyant that can help answer questions on love, careers, financial issues, and spiritual issues.
48. Vine Spiritual Guidance Blog – The Australian Psychic Medium Vine’s blog provides helpful guidance, spirituality and advice about psychic readings.
49. Tarot Eon Blog – Doug Gibb is a professional Tarot Reader. His blog focuses on Tarot Divination and provides practical tricks, tips and techniques on Tarot.
50. Tarot Elements Blog – Catherine Chapman discusses tarot and uses her blog to express her ideas and experiences.

Getting worthwhile dating advice can be difficult at times. You first have to find somewhere to find advice or someone to give it to you. After getting the advice you have to find out whether or not it is good or bad advice. Well… for those of you who are in need of dating advice, but don’t know where to find it look no further. We have found you some great places that offer dating tips and advice.

• Hayley Quinn – Hayley Quinn is a dating coach and writer who runs her own dating advice website. There is a ton of great advice here to answer any of your dating questions, so be sure to check it out!
• April Beyer – If you’re a female and in need of some serious dating advice look no further than April Beyer. She is a very successful dating and relationship expert for single women!
• Asian Dating Coach – Here is a site directed more towards those who are Asian. If you are Asian and in need of some dating advice then check out dating coach, Thanh Bonsai’s, site.
• Beyer and Company – Here is a site that provides boutique style matchmaking. Find all of the dating advice you need here as well as being matched up with a great date!
• Get a Love Life – Get a Love Life provides those middle-aged singles with all of the dating advice they need to be successful.
• Making Love Work For You – This site provides you with all of the secrets that most singles will never know about dating and attracting love!
• Love in 90 Days – Dr. Diana Kirschiner’s site, Love in 90 Days, is here to provide you with free dating tips and relationship advice.
• Dating Advice Database – Check out this site and read through it’s free 7 page report to find all of the tips and advice you need to attract that special someone.
• Date Coaching Expert – Look through this site to find out how to “crack the code” to be successful at your dating life.
• Dating With Dignity – Expert Dating Coach Marni Battista provides you with the tools, tips, and scripts to get your love life right!
• Your Date Coach – Christine Hart’s site provides you with all the tips and advice that a successful dating coach can give you to be successful at dating.
• The Internet Dating Coach – Are you using online dating? Then why not have an internet dating coach. This site provides you with a number of great tips to help you with your online dating.
• The Professional Wingman – At some point or another everyone needs a wingman…. Since that’s the case why don’t you talk to a wingman that is a professional?!?
• Your Successful Dating Coach – Karen Howells is a leading expert in the field of dating and relationships. Checking out her site is a sure fire way to find out any of those dating tips you won’t find anywhere else.
• The Dating Specialist – Nick is the dating specialist. Here you will find out everything you need to gain the confidence to be truly successful in your dating life.
• The Love Consultants – Love consultants is a site here to give you all of the tips and advice to finding love!

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Rejection is a hardship we must face on all dating websites. You may be used to getting turned down at a job interview, bar stool, or application for a bank loan, but a rejection from a digital image on your computer screen is a different kind of disappointment altogether. Finding zero messages in your dating website’s mailbox can be disheartening. This is one of the main reasons members quit before experiencing real success. However, by using these simple tips, you can keep your motivation high, learn from your mistakes, and improve your chances of finding a match.

Don’t Panic

When faced with rejection, one of the initial reactions is panic. You may wonder if you’re ever going to find anyone. You might imagine living in a cat ridden apartment, watching Sex in the City re-runs, and eating gallons of chocolate ice cream. This feeling of panic is merely your body’s flight or fight response. It is the same drive that forces lovers to grovel at their partner’s feet, after they’ve threatened to leave them. By recognizing this momentary jolt of adrenaline in your body, you can tell yourself that there is nothing to fear. Dating websites are a series of ups and downs, so don’t let a couple of rejections send you to the cat farm. Find a way to squeeze out this excess amount of energy, by either going for a walk, bike ride, or trip to the gym.

Get Some Exercise

Speaking of getting rid of excess energy, exercise is just as healthy for the mind, as it is for the body. Not only does it release ‘feel good’ chemicals into your brain, but it also improves self-image, so that a rejection won’t have quite the same bite. If you’re in the process of working through a previous bad relationship or marriage, and your confidence cup is feeling a bit empty, by working towards change in your physical body, you can create change in your emotional state as well. Shedding some unwanted pounds, or increasing your endurance, can be symbolic of creating an overall, new you. Never overlook the benefits of getting out and working off a sweat, as there are few sedentary activities that can offer such an arsenal of good.

Pop a Brain Pill

One of the problems with dating websites, is members have the tendency to get involved too quickly. Your brain may be drowning in the mood inducing, heroine-like chemicals, of dopamine and oxytocin, but this pleasure paradise can be short lived. When you’re infatuated with someone, and they remove these chemicals by removing themselves from your life, what follows is a series of side effects similar to an addict going through rehab. Symptoms may include aches, pains, increased sweating, and depression. The best way to give yourself a quick fix, is to get out with family or friends, engaging in some stimulating conversation. If there is nobody available to hang out with, writing in a journal or playing a musical instrument offers a similar benefit.

Visualize the Win

Positive meditation can put you in the right state of mind to create the motivation necessary to succeed on dating websites. Rather than playing old re-runs of your greatest relationship failures each time you feel down, try visualizing your success in the future. Here is a simple technique that woks for a lot of people. Find yourself a quiet place to sit down, relax, and breathe deeply. Once your mind is clear from any negativity, begin to sort through what you’ve learned from your recent dating experiences. It may not be anything more than you don’t want to go after that type again, but there is a lesson somewhere in every date you’ve had. Rejection is not regression. It is a progression to understanding what other members want. You may feel like you’ve fallen back, but you’ve really tumbled forward!

Rejection is an emotion state created within our own mind. You may not be able to please everybody, but the most important thing is that you please yourself, and treat yourself with the positive praise and respect you deserve. You may not have control over those who choose to love you, but you do have control over choosing to love yourself!

A date is a nerve-wrecking experience in its early stages. You prep yourself emotionally and physically for what the night may entail, hoping for the best and often, as the saying goes, expecting the worst. And then the worst happens. You get stood up. A shot to your ego and a few leaps back in your dating confidence, getting stood up can be rather traumatizing. Read through these articles to cope with the emotional aftermath and get back on your feet!

• The Naomi Show Avoid post-stand up tears with these seven coping tips.
• Life123 If you have been stood up, but are considering giving this person another chance, read this article first.
• Nights and Weekends Think you’ve had it bad? Read the advice this reader gets after being stood up three times!
• Love Panky Browse through this narrative of being stood up, following the fear, sadness, and revenge of this experience.
• She Knows 5 rules of ensuring a date, and what to do if this date flakes.
• So Suave Men, read on if you want to avoid ever getting stood up by a woman.
• Single City Guy Reflections of a stood-up man.
• Date Hookup Say your date has a good excuse for standing you up? Read through this discussion to decide what to do next.
• The Frisky A self-proclaimed expert in getting stood up provides a comical, and helpful, flowchart to map the potential outcomes of being stood up.
• Little Red Rails After an online-dater gets stood up, he recounts this experience and shares what he learned.
• Ask Men In this Q&A, a reader debates giving the woman that stood him up another chance. Read this man’s experience and the follow-up advice from Doc Love.
• Made Man Five simple, and necessary, tips of advice for dealing with getting stood up.
• St. Petersburg Times Read this horrifying tale of the ultimate stand up.
• TV Tropes All of the ins and outs of what getting stood up is and means.
• Broken Heart 911 Understand what getting stood up can possibly mean, for both men and women.

Whether you are looking for a one-night stand, a committed relationship or anything in between, if you can’t meet women it’s impossible to accomplish anything along these lines. The qualities and skills that make it possible for men to pick up women are viewed by many as abstract and indefinable, however in recent years communities of men devoted to reducing this to a science have popped up all over the United States. The Internet has a cornucopia of resources available for men who are eager to hone their skills in this area, also know as every bachelor man on earth.

• Dating Advice Blog – This website features not only information on how to pick up women, but reviews, comparisons and suggested pairings of the other highly circulated theories on the subject.
• eSeduce – Featuring examples from popular culture, instructive articles, blog posts, and a sections detailing how to handle very specific situations depending on your skill level, eseduce.com approaches pick up artistry straightforwardly and provides easy access to a wealth of information.
• Fast Seduction – This online community features forums and searchable databases for anyone seeking knowledge, or the opinions of people in the pick up artist community.
• Julian Foxx – Julian Foxx is a homepage of a renown pick up artist educations service, offering live training and a Dating IQ test.
• Love Systems – Offering access to a forum, live training, seminars, boot camps, books, videos, direct advice, etc…lovesystems.com covers a wide variety of resources for pick up artists of any level.
• Master Pick Up Artists – This website is brimming with youtube links and has an informative blog, along with links to various products and schedule of live Boot Camps for its more motivated patrons.
• Neil Strauss – This is the website of perhaps the countries most famous pick up artist, Neil Strauss. It features his responses to specific questions and opinions on the intricate and highly specific parts of pick up artistry.
• Pick Up Artist Forum – A straight forward and well trafficked forum with different sections devoted to different phases of seduction and other subtleties of the art.
• Pick Up Artist – This website features a host of links to different pickups artists’ articles and blogs, supplying a wealth of information on everything from proper phone use to approaching girls on the street.
• Pick Up Evolution- A self-improvement site that features links to dozens of quality blogs devoted to picking up women.
• Pick Up Artist Forums – Another well organized, highly trafficked forum featuring highly specific sections and discussion topics. This has something to offer virtually anyone involved in the world of pick up artists.
• Pick Up Artist In Training – This site is devoted to the evolution of a single pick up artist named Mr. Orange. It caters to the less experienced pick up artists and features a glossary of the highly specialized language that makes up the world of pick up artistry.
• Pick Up Artist Training – For the more committed aspiring pick up artists, Pick Up Artist Training is organized around getting its visitors to attend training sessions in residence across the United States and Europe.
• Seduction – The official site of famous pick up artist Ross Jeffries, seduction.com is devoted to his tactics and theories on pick up artistry.
• Stylelife – This is the website of Neil Strauss’ academy, a school devoted to the development of both individual pick up artists and the pick up artist community.
• The Modern Savage – A blog devoted to an unusually wide array of subjects concerning “the seductive life.” In addition to the expected material, subjects include the perils of porn addiction, how to construct an emergency seduction kit in an Altoids container, and the analysis of the dilemmas of male virgins.
• The Social Secrets – The blog of pick up artist and muay thai fighter Johnny Wolf.
• The Venusian Arts – This website was founded by Mystery, the alias of famous pick up artist Erik Von Markovik, and other cast members of the Vh1 show, The Pickup Artist. It is connected to a network of instructors and pledges to be devoted to the refining and development of the Venusian Arts, otherwise know as picking up women.
• Vin Dicarlo – The website and blog of pick up artist Vin Dicarlo.
• Lines That Are Good – Sense no resource article on picking up women would be complete without one, and many people probably don’t have the patience to master the Venusian arts, here is a website featuring hundreds of pick up lines, complete with approximations for their success rates.

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